host a large annual family dinner with 1 firm rule: each guest must contribute a homemade dish. It was my DIL’s first time.
She brought a store-bought meal, saying, “Sorry but l’m not a SAHM like you. I have more demanding priorities than cooking.” I chose to stay silent. Later, as we all sat down to eat, my DIL suddenly broke into tears as she spotted, beside her dish, a stack of disposable plates, and heard me say, “Here’s something to help speed things up.
After all, you don’t have time for all this effort, do you? And since this isn’t homemade, I figured you wouldn’t mind eating off paper plates while we enjoy the tradition at the table.”
Then I smiled politely and added, “Since you mentioned that, unlike me, you don’t have the luxury of time to cook because you’re not a stay-at home mom, I thought I’d make things a bit easier for vou.” “That’s not-I didn’t mean-” she stammered, tears streaming down her face.
I gently interrupted her, saying, “I understand being busy, but this isn’t about having time-it’s about making time. It’s about respect. If you value this family, you’ll show it, just like everyone else here has.” Dinner continued, tense but civil. After we finished, my son called me to the kitchen and told me he was very upset with me for ‘publicly disrespecting’ his wife.
He insisted that I apologize to her in front of all the guests. However, I stood firm and refused. Now, it has been a week since the incident, and I haven’t heard from my son or DIL. I am left wondering whether I overreacted. Your opinion matters greatly. Sincerely,
Karen
